- Alexandra Solomon
- 1 Hour 58 Minutes
- Audio and Video
- Mar 22, 2019
In a world of dating apps that present seemingly limitless romantic possibilities, our clients often get stuck in “low accountability” intimate relationships that foster pessimism and anxiety.
They often show up in our offices complaining there are “no good people left out there” or that it’s “impossible to get a relationship off the ground.”
In this recording, we’ll take an integrative approach to understanding the causes and consequences of relational ambivalence, and discover clinical tools to help clients identify and manage their relational boundaries so they’re better able to create happy, healthy intimate relationships.
Explain the relationship between recent dating trends and clinical symptoms, like anxiety and depression, and how they inform treatment interventions.
- Using Integrative Systemic Therapy (IST) to assess for positive and negative impact of dating on emotional health
- Supporting clients who are struggling with negative impact on emotional health including self-aware dating strategies, peer support, and technology breaks.
Identify how to help clients set boundaries and advocate for their relational needs with romantic partners.
- Encouraging clients to use attachment style, relationship history, and family of origin dynamics to guide choices
- Differentiating between rule-based dating plans and one’s own path
- A framework for sexual decision-making
Explore with clients the importance of relational self-awareness in creating a successful romantic relationship.
- Relational self-awareness
- The role of emotional vulnerability
- Exploring how modern dating climate constrains emotional vulnerability
- Strategies for helping clients develop more comfort with vulnerability.
- Incorporating knowledge (about self and about love) translate into ease with commitment
Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is staff clinical psychologist, member of the teaching faculty in the marriage and family therapy graduate program, and clinical assistant professor of psychology at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to her clinical work with couples and individuals, Solomon teaches graduate and undergraduate students. One of her courses is Northwestern University’s internationally renowned “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101,” which combines traditional and experiential learning to educate students about key relational issues like intimacy, sex, conflict, acceptance, and forgiveness.
She also writes a column for Psychology Today and is the author of two books—Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017) and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020).
Solomon’s work has been widely cited, and her articles on love and marriage have appeared in The Handbook of Clinical Psychology, The Handbook of Couple Therapy, Family Process, Psychotherapy Networker, and other top publications in psychology. Her work also appears in O Magazine and The Huffington Post, and she is a frequent interviewee and contributor for the Oprah Winfrey Network, Yahoo! Health, The Atlantic, CBS Early Show, NPR, Psychology Today, Scientific American and The Economist. She is a sought-after speaker for corporate, collegiate, and professional audiences on topics related to modern love.